Happy Mothers Day
A lioness is an embodiment of motherhood. Bold and beautiful, strong and fearless, loving and protective. A lioness’s role within her pride is to hunt, gather and bring food to the table. She also protects the her family from attackers and other prey and warns them of impending danger.
You struggle at times unable to fulfill you dreams as you assist your children to discover themselves, even at times propping your partner.
Being a mother is the most rewarding and the most frustrating experience. Kids challenge you, mold you, and in many ways, define you. As a mother you can get fed up with the mundane tasks of motherhood. The sometimes thankless tasks like doing washing and ironing only to see clothes strewn on the floor. Or spending so much time cooking only for your kids to give you eyes" at the dinner table and later on wake up to moaning 'njaa’(We are hungry) . At times buying a surprise gift only to find how distasteful your choice was. You give up so much of yourself, time, space and freedom. Every part of your life feels so invaded. Your story suddenly becomes divided between how you were before and how you are now. You struggle at times unable to fulfill you dreams as you assist your children to discover themselves, even at times propping your partner. You are figuring out everything from the scratch because every single child is different and you will be making mistakes along the way.
Don’t stress, you are just perfect the way you are. You are even more than a boxed gift with a ribbon on it you are prayeful, prayer availeth much. No one else can love and raise your children like you can, they were destined to be raised by you! Be encouraged by the skills of a lioness to navigate the journey of motherhood. They grow so fast, being present for them is an honour and a privilege given to us by our Heavenly Father.
One of the things i have learned and accepted in marriage life, from my own experience and talking to my parents and friends is that we are all imperfect. We are human after all. I have learned that my spouse will regularly fall short of my expectations, I will equally disappoint them.
My late grandmother had a way at admonishing us, “If you can’t make up your mind on whom to marry and keep up with a life mate, there is plenty of clay in this world, you can mould one, shape her with the right curves and shade of colour, then let her dry up, we will wait and see if you will get breathe in her lungs or blood ooze through her veins”.
When I reflect on her words and the reinforced biblical teachings i grew up with, then i appreciate that we have all fallen short of the glory. I realize her actions are what first attracted me to her: she is human-capable of love and laughter. I am grateful in having someone who has the patience and resilience to put up with me. By accepting the negative side as inevitable, I’m able to appreciate and showcase the positive actions bound of love. Such as taking care of our dotting daughter who is all lovely and grown up.
Happy Mother’s day to all mothers, those in waiting, angel moms, mentor moms and fathers who out of choice or circumstances are playing both roles. You are special.
This story was first written as an abdridge Instagram post on my page as an appreciation to my mate.